Sunday, October 18, 2009

I choose my choice...

This weekend was brought to me by the letter "R" for restlessness...

and the number 3, for the hour at which I went to bed both Fri and Sat nights.

Do you ever have a day where you just can't put your finger on how you feel or why you feel that way? I've been having a lot of those lately...

Yesterday afternoon I went to a friend's apartment and watched as she baked and cooked us dinner. All the while chatting about pretty much every feeling under the sun.

Remember that episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte responds to the shock that she plans to quit her museum job to become a stay-at-home wife by proclaiming, "I choose my choice!" K and I talked about the idea of choosing to own certain situations in your life and thus making them positive rather than negative. Case and point, my singlehood. She pointed out, quite smartly I might add, that I am picky. I knew this already but having someone affirm it in such a way has me thinking about how I have chosen my choice to stay single rather than end up with someone I'm not crazy about. In the end it is a decision (whether conscious or not) I have made rather than something that is happening to me. The control freak in me likes this and I'm trying as I might to run with it. I dare say this is helping me...

I challenge everyone to try this and see where it gets you.
Oh, and I promise I don't live life and walk around this city thinking of Sex and the City episodes... Well, maybe not all the time.

4 comments:

DSS said...

I chose to stay single for 3 years! I dated, but never comitted. I waited for just the right guy, even though it was a LONG wait, and it was worth it :)

Meg said...

Be happy with your choice. If you choose to be picky, so be it. As long as you're happy with it that's all that matters!

MCW said...

I agree. Single is a choice. Sometimes it doesn't feel that way...but, I look at a few of my friends who are married/in a relationship just to be in one. I know that eventually I will be happier in the long run being picky...at least I hope so :)

Ms. M said...

I like the statistic that couples who marry later have marriages that last longer! I think the time you spend figuring stuff out has a lot to do with that... someday you'll amaze your children by telling them about all your city adventures :)

xo, m.